Arggg. Me no understand what smart lady say. Me can not think right. Man only think of stupid things, cat food, fly fishing, etc. If only man had smart brain like super intelligent mate lady. But man have no ability to understand smart talk. He only think about sports. Especially he like wrestling. Watch big man get beat up by slightly bigger man. Also NASCAR. Man enjoy watching cars turn left for 50o miles.

Please stop with the stereotyping of the dumb male who never thinks about anything important. I know that you (women) have been subjected to even worse stereotypes for an even longer time. I am sorry and I try my hardest everyday to fight against them. There can never be any justification for how we (men) treated you historically. But responding with tired stereotypes that supposedly accurately describe how approximately 4 billion + men that make up the current population of the planet think is hurtful and wrong.

I admit that when you ask a man what he is thinking you might not get the answer you hoped for. I can’t speak for all men but I don’t think it is a stretch to suggest the answer he does give is most likely fabricated to a large extent. The fact is the question immediately puts most men into a defensive posture. Despite the lack of intelligence you smear men with in your post most men are at least partially smart. They recognize that your question has no right answer. So rather than spending time and energy trying to develop a thoughtful and reasoned reply that you would ultimately pick apart anyway they default to dumb guy mode.

Ironically we resort to dumb guy mode because we recognize the stereotype that many women have of us. If women stopped appealing to this very stereotype they might get a more thoughtful answer to the loaded question of “what are you thinking?”

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