I do and I have and I will continue too. I have to say this really hurts. It sucks. I do not want to be lumped in together with the men who duck for cover under the “most men are not like this” defense as an excuse to mask their sexist and misoginistic world views or as an excuse to justify their silence. Pity is not something I am looking for or believe is appropriate. I just get so depressed when I read posts that imply I am guilty for all the assholes out there who believe and espouse this shit. Maybe ultimately I am. I could do more. I probably should do more. I end up racked with guilt and feel even worse about myself than ever. Attacks like this one only serve to silence men like me who are supporters of the cause. Now I will be forever hesitant to speak up. Always worried my words will be misinterpreted and used against me. The worst thing is you are totally justified in what you say. Even my criticism of this attack are fundamentally questionable. Maybe I only object as a defense of my core sexist attitudes and beliefs. I can respond by telling you this is not the case but you have no reason to take my word. Unfortunately the end result is paralysis. Lack of any opportunity to start a meaningful discussion. I do not pretend to know a way to move beyond this impasse. All I can say is that for me I will stop commenting on this topic for now. The risks of defamation of my character are too great and their does not seem to be any viable reward.

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